Making Love Last

So what is the secret to making sure that your relationship survives the three stage phases and makes it well into the attachment stage?

Well it seems there are some identifiable points that make a good recipe for a lasting relationship.

Firstly, you need to love yourself - corny but true! You need to have a level of self esteem in order to build your confidence. No one can love you enough to make up for that!

Liking your partner - yes you may fancy them like mad but do you actually like them as a person?! Do you share similar goals and interests in life? You don't need to like doing the same thing all the time of course but bearing in mind the attraction phase doesn't last forever you need something else to build on if the relationship is to last.

Make quality time - during the initial first stages of love you probably prioritised your relationship over everything else! But in time too many of us let it slip and barely spend any time together. Making time for each other is important to building a long-lasting relationship people! Communication - yes that old chestnut!

Argue with each other! This is actually tied in to the point above a little bit. Its healthy to have an argument occasionally and not let the little things build up inside until you snap at the tiniest little thing - communicate!

The last point really is too realise that over the years people change and that your relationship will also change slightly. But change doesn't have to be a bad thing - follow the points above and you should find that you grow together and not apart.